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Orgasmic

The Style section of the New York Times recently featured an article about a co-ed San Francisco retreat center/commune called One Taste that’s exclusive focus is the female orgasm! Brilliant. Each morning, at 7 a.m., members of the commune participate in Orgasmic Meditation, where the men give the women orgasms. Okay, so the article gave no mention to lesbians, but maybe we don’t need a retreat center like this, because we’ve all already figured out that female orgasm is where it’s at. Or have we?

Reading this piece even made me — out and proud lesbian and recipient of many orgasms from women and transguys and my own fingers and collection of toys (in other words, probably not the most typical NYT reader, but then again, who knows?) — wonder if I had some things to learn. And then I started thinking about that lesbian bed death theory. So, naturally, I must use this forum to ask all of you... Do you think lesbians out there are having lots of orgasms? Are you? And do you ever fake it? You can always post as anonymous, after all!

One Taste has locations in both San Francisco and New York City. I sent an e-mail asking what they have to offer for lesbians which resulted in a lovely phone conversation with Rachel, who told me that of course same-sex couples were welcome. And, in fact, they have several women-only events throughout the year. And if you happen to be looking for a queer-friendly spiritual sex workshop, another wonderful option is Barbara Carrellas, author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century (and gender outlaw Kate Bornstein’s partner). I’ve had the pleasure (pun intended) of meeting both Barbara and Kate, and they are just such incredibly lovely and generous people. So generous, in fact, that they are both are regularly on tour, just for you!



Comments [18]

CA_Medicine_Woman's picture

Only the first time! ;)

Only the first time! Wink

Tex's picture

Hilarious!

Hilarious!

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Fastgurrrl's picture

No worries, RobinR, thanks

No worries, RobinR, thanks for sharing. Smile

Tex's picture

Sooooo busy right now - quick

Sooooo busy right now - quick answer for me:

Love 'em, get 'em, give 'em, want 'em.....

Alive and well,

Tex

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Robin Rigby's picture

Woke up this morning thinking

Woke up this morning thinking some might find my prior post TMI. Those who know me, know that I'm an open book and don't really care what people know about me. I have nothing to hide. You either love me or you don't. Sorry if I offended.

Fastgurrrl's picture

Whoa, that's pretty kinky.

Whoa, that's pretty kinky.

~GK's picture

About 10 years ago I had an

About 10 years ago I had an amazing experience at the Body Electric school just across the bridge. I was newly sober and worried about performance... and my sponsor urged me to take the class Celebrating the Body Erotic for Women. It was transformational. It's a weekend workshop and it's very spriitual and tantric, and very hands on... or in. I think they even have alumni groups now. When I took the class, I was living in Orange County, so there wasn't any real community like there is up in the East Bay. Amazing experience.

CA_Medicine_Woman's picture

LOL, yeah, but it's much more

LOL, yeah, but it's much more enjoyable when I can just relax and let someone else do the driving! Wink

Not2Taem's picture

Sounds like you need someone

Sounds like you need someone who wants to be teacher's petter. Wink
Anyway, nothing wrong with a good hot shower.

Robin Rigby's picture

Awesome, Minnie. I mean

Awesome, Minnie. I mean Anonymins. Er, whoever you are.

Robin Rigby's picture

My first girlfriend and I

My first girlfriend and I were together for 6 years and we eventually quit having sex but I don't think it was LBD. Mainly, we were just incompatible sexually but specifically her idea of getting me in the mood was asking me if I wanted to have sex which was not going to cut it. I just got tired of having to be the one to always start something because she didn't have the gumption to work harder at getting me in the mood. Ergo, the end of our relationship.

There was no LBD in my other relationships. Then again, my last girlfriend might have been a bit of a sex addict since she was fucking anywhere from 2-4 different women at any given time. I'm not talking orgies and 3 ways, I just mean cheating on me obsessively.

I don't think it has to happen. I agree with Lezbeth's thoughts and think that it's easy to avoid that. Just meet and fall in love with someone who isn't exactly like you. Have different interests. Do things separately. I actually think it's more interesting that way, if you love all the same things and do everything together then what do you have to talk about?

itty's picture

Anonymins....

Anonymins....

ElizKoke's picture

yes they are!

yes they are!

minniesota's picture

Wait, I forgot about the

Wait, I forgot about the gravatar.

~Notanonymins

Still searching for the right brainy quote.

minniesota's picture

Some are, could be, When

Some are, could be, When Harriet Met Sally

Still searching for the right brainy quote.

CA_Medicine_Woman's picture

On the LBD question: Yes,

On the LBD question: Yes, Yes, wouldn't know how to, lol.

Unfortunately, getting a partner to do the work for me gets fairly complicated, and not just for the obvious reasons (obvious for those who know me, anyway). There is the problem of my unusual anatomy, which means I typically take longer and do not respond to the same things as a typical, well, any gender. I've only had two partners in my life that were able to, um, service my needs, lol. The rest either had their own hang ups or were too selfish to follow instructions, resulting in them getting what they want, and me getting what I want from the shower massager later on.

Fastgurrrl's picture

Elizabeth, are they all in

Elizabeth, are they all in the same room together getting off??

Lezbeth's picture

In answer to your

In answer to your questions...yes, yes and no. No need for anonymity.

I think LBD has more to do with merging/undermining individual identities (the "we" syndrome), boredom and habit than with orgasms per se. I'd like to hear what others think causes LBD.