“Hurt So Bad”: Susan Tedeschi Teaches Us to Give In Before Giving Up

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“Hurt So Bad”: Susan Tedeschi Teaches Us to Give In Before Giving Up

Have I told you guys how much I LOVE LOVE LOVE Susan Tedeschi’s voice? No?!  Oh you’ve got no idea who Susan Tedeschi is (I know, I be showin’ my old soul, boo).

Lucky for you, I’ve got this video below that you can get familiar with...

um … that thing … that she does at the end there … MY GOODNESS!

In case you’re interested in hearing the original album track …

So...where's the lesson here? << You knew this was coming!

I miss the arms that used to hold me
The tender way we used to kiss
I miss the way that you touch me
I miss the sweet taste of your lips

I was a fool to ever leave you
You were a fool to let me go
Oh it’s so lonesome, lonesome here with out you
Oh how I miss you so

It hurt… it hurt… it hurt so bad
You were the best man I ever had
Why was I so blind to see?
Now the biggest fool is me

I miss the arms that used to hold me
The tender way we used to kiss
Ooo… yes… ooo… I miss the way that you touch me
I miss the sweet taste of your lips

It hurt… it hurt… it hurt so bad
‘Cause ooo you were the best man I ever, ever, ever had
Why was I so blind to see
And now the biggest fool is me

Oh Oh what a fool I was darlin’… yes…
And oh you were a fool to let… let me go… why did you let me go?
It’s so lonesome here with out you
Oh how I miss you so

Oh Oh now yes
Don’t do it, don’t do it, don’t do it oh lord no!
I miss you oh yeah!
Come back Oh! come back to me, yes
Oh how I miss you
Oh I miss you so
Oh Oh Lordy, Lordy, Lordy Oooo……..
Don’t do it, Oh! Come on baby Come back to me
Oh how I miss you so
How I miss you so
Oh,oh,oh,ooooo….Lord now
Oh I miss you baby

OK, maybe we didn’t need the full lyrics … but the point … sometimes we need to be reminded that years from now we could be balled up on the floor screaming “It hurt so bad, boo, I miss you, I want you back” because of an action made in the heat of the moment. We need to remember that when we give up before we try giving in, we tend to end up … empty.  We need to remember what’s at stake.

What do I mean?

If, there is a love (and I mean a real true deeply intense love … not one of these frivolous flings you young folks, lol, are calling love these days) … and within that love, you stumble upon conflict … before even entering into that point of conflict, you need to ask yourself, “What’s at stake here?”

Ask yourself, “What am I willing to lose just to be right?”

Still not entirely sure about how you want to approach the conflict? Get blunt with yourself.

Say, “Self, is what I’m feeling in this particular moment worth an unresolved conflict between me and the person I love? Is that unresolved conflict worth ending this love?”

I’m going to go ahead and hip you to game … if your answer is “yes,” then your real issue is 1 of 2 things: A. YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE. or B. You have a problem that is most likely a reflection of the fact that you and this person should not be in a relationship together.

If, after the above conversation, you’re calm enough to know better and do better, then your only next action is figuring out the best course of action for conflict resolution with your partner.

And that, honeybees and boys, is for another post.

BUT … I will offer a friendly piece of advice … just because I LOVE YOU: It’s not enough to KNOW your partner. You must endeavor to understand them. Learn what makes them tick, how your words or emotions affect them, learn what what calms and enrages them- but not just for the sake of knowing, desire to understand the motivation.

in the meantime,

you stay cool. i’ll stay khoLi. <3