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Including a disproportionate number of novels and story collections by Colm Toibin, a couple of Elaine Dundy novels, poetry by William Dickey, Jaime Saenz, Frank Bidart, re-reads of some standing favorites (mmm Elizabeth Bishop's Collected Poems, House of Mirth, a Jane Eyre/Wide Sargasso Sea...
How can we orchestrate her ascendance into world domination through international popstardom?
Twice. In a row. Both times I was 18 years younger; both times it turned out I was the one with more skills.
Hey Robin and Grace, Thanks; good to see you again too! I'm ALMOST done with my novel, so may be back around these parts more often shortly. Robin--Exactly. It's not a case of wanting things to be obsessively even-steven (i.e. the keeping track of whose turn it is joke), but rather openness to the...
My two cents: Can chivalry be hot and fun? Most definitely. Is it hot and fun when it's codified in a rigid way, becoming a set of expectations, and not authentically connected to real consideration of what the human being you're interacting with might enjoy? Not at all, for me. Is there anything...
Amen, Yonks--it may be a baby swan.
Hello Prof, You know, I don't know that she's published that anywhere...I heard her say it at a reading at Cody's Books in Berkeley a couple of years ago when the new edition of Empathy was published and she was doing a reading. (Empathy, by the way, might be my alltime favorite of her novels.) She...
Hi Rusty,   I totally support your experiment in waiting to see who acknowledges you! You might be pleasantly surprised.
Hi Tae, Glad you got something out of it! I suspect it's not our selves that shift so much as our understandings, a lot of the time...identity--so high maintenance in the post postmodern world! I hadn't been thinking about this stuff for ages, but since I'm dating, I'm running into it more...
Thanks, Robin! It's nice to have another post up. Yes, we do use our lingo in a stunning variety of ways...stay tuned for parts II and III! I'll be explicating up a storm.
Agreed--it's better, and it's way more fun!
Interesting theory about your secret weapon! I think you're onto something. Also, way to go for having boundaries with your students. That's nice to hear.
This made me laugh...
It was too good a title to pass up, for sure. The empathy is a fine thing, but "repeatedly and viciously" sounds like a harsh way to come by it. Sorry!
Hi Rusty, You have to admit it's a teensy bit ironic that you just called me a femme.
Rusty, I used the words "some, many, most, lots" because I specifically wanted to acknowledge that not every butch acts like this, and I don't think these problematic behavior patterns are at all inherent to butches. I don't have statistical data for you about what percentage of people I interacted...
Hi Fastgurrrl, Thanks for saying hi! I do know what it's like to feel like you don't belong, but I actually am very easy to place on this particular spectrum. Maybe too easy. I just don't want certain pieces of baggage that go with that designation. It's not actually possible to shed that baggage...
Amen!
Hi Mystics, I'm a little confused. I'm not advocating "no labels" or saying that recognizing subsets is divisive--because I, like you, think our differences are a source of richness. "No labels" actually makes me feel crazy, personally. I don't know where you saw that in my post. I'm certainly not...
Hi FemmeFlame, Thanks for your thoughts! Just to be clear: I have no beef with the Butch Voices conference. Zero. None. I very intentionally began my post with that particular opening paragraph in order to make that point. I really appreciate your respect for the event itself, but you don’t need to...
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