Diana Cage & Prof C: Gender & Sexuality Part Ten

  • The service having id "propeller" is missing, reactivate its module or save again the list of services.
  • The service having id "buzz" is missing, reactivate its module or save again the list of services.
Could not display the flash because sites/default/files/video/cage_crandall10.flv does not appear to exist.
Diana Cage & Prof C: Gender & Sexuality Part Ten

Doctor Cage and Professor C pick up where they left off last week in this latest installment of Gender & Sexuality. To ex or or not to ex, that is this week's question.

You are missing some Flash content that should appear here! Perhaps your browser cannot display it, or maybe it did not initialize correctly.

Comments [46]

tami's picture

i see said the blind man to

i see said the blind man to his deaf wife who was walking the dog with no legs!

admin's picture

asdfsadf

asdfsadf

admin's picture

sadfsadf

sadfsadf

Steph H's picture

What about a nice piece of

What about a nice piece of battered cod?

Steph H's picture

Aw, the doggie is so cute!!

Aw, the doggie is so cute!!

Steph H's picture

I agree with you on this one

I agree with you on this one Rusty. When I broke up with my ex one of my friends couldn't work out why I didn't want to go to a dinner party that she had also invited my ex to - I had to stop myself saying "If you broke up with your husband how would you feel if I invited you both to the same dinner party, shortly afterwards?".

Haven't seen or spoken to her in 10 years and that's just the way I like it.

Robin Rigby's picture

I think I'll skip them. I

I think I'll skip them. I just can't eat deep fried foods anymore. My high end Vegas tacos were grilled. Although the grilled fish tacos were certainly yummy.

Apparently, Taem they're a Baja thing that was brought to SoCal so if you grew up anywhere other than this region it's not something you would have been exposed to. I spent 16 years in RI and though I wouldn't eat clams if my life depended on it I still like New England Clam Chowder.

I still think fish taco as a euphemism is amusing although also somewhat offensive so maybe we should just stick with pink taco. Smile

Julia Watson's picture

Those messy fish tacos. Watch

Those messy fish tacos. Watch out!

Not2Taem's picture

I grew up within bike riding

I grew up within bike riding distance of an excellent swim, but fish tacos might be a bit much even for me. Now a nice seafood chowder or lobster...

minniesota's picture

You got it, RR! I love some

You got it, RR! I love some SoCal fish tacos. Order the platter from Rubios and make sure you grab 10 napkins.

Still searching for the right brainy quote.

Grace Moon's picture

um yeAh, we are living it.

um yeAh, we are living it.

tweet tweet @gracemoon

Robin Rigby's picture

"Bawdy part". You crack me

"Bawdy part". You crack me up, Taem. No, they're not a euphemism they're a real dish that you can order at your local taco stand. I'm a bad SoCal'er, I've been here 6 years and I've had fish tacos once, in Las Vegas. I think that's my native of a landlocked state thing coming out. Not big on seafood.

Not2Taem's picture

Don't worry minnie, we all

Don't worry minnie, we all know the devil made ya do it.

minniesota's picture

:oops: Oops, si, I did mean

:oops: Oops, si, I did mean the exorcism was for those exes.

Still searching for the right brainy quote.

Not2Taem's picture

Woof!

Woof!

lucia_2008's picture

:( just when I was gathering

Sad just when I was gathering staples to bring to the commune I find out there isn't one. Sad

Smile...life is good!!!

Not2Taem's picture

I think the letter is flaming

I think the letter is flaming orange. Does it take a whole hour? Laughing out loud

lucia_2008's picture

CA...if your ever in my area

CA...if your ever in my area please call me and I will take you out to dinner and we can talk until you have to hit the road again. Then I can give you a big hug!!!

Smile...life is good!!!

Not2Taem's picture

Is this a continuation of the

Is this a continuation of the many unique names for a certain female bawdy part?

Not2Taem's picture

I think its the :evil: XGFs

I think its the Evil XGFs Evil that have been possessed,
not CAMW.

shiva's picture

You got the right idea, LBDL

You got the right idea, LBDL Smile

Caramelteddy's picture

Lol. Oh Rusty, you are not an

Lol. Oh Rusty, you are not an asshole. Aging better than your exes is justice. Sweet, sexy, slightly vain justice.

Caramelteddy's picture

I don't hang with any of my

I don't hang with any of my exes because I don't like the way it feels to see them in a new intimate relationship. I get all Alpha-Butch and end up acting like an ass.

The only ex that I occasionally hang out with, I only do so because there are children involved. And I'm hanging with the kids, so I don't think that should count.

I think it's kinda lame that its taboo for a straight woman to hang out with single male friends. What's the problem? Are their husbands afraid that they will suddenly become whores in the company of other men? "Poor Sarah. She just couldn't resist all of that available dick." Sounds like more repressive, puritan influenced, scarlet letter b.s. to me. As for lesbians hanging out with single les-friends, again I ask wtf? Do straight people think that we give off some kind of chemical that makes us want to hump any unattached woman that we spend more than an hour alone with? As lesbians, do we get a fuchsia letter for improper behavior?

Rusty's picture

CT, Breaking up with the

CT, Breaking up with the family is a good idea. But there is a statute of limitations. Ex the first's (high school) sister and I stayed in touch and I met the entire family for brunch in Vegas a couple of years ago.

My turn to confess. I did love seeing everyone for the 1st time in over 30 years (including my ex) but I decided to go partly to see how the years had been on my ex. (1. California is definitely more gentle on the aging process than Chicago. 2. Yes, I really am that big an asshole.)

"When you look for the bad in mankind expecting to find it, you surely will." ~ Pollyanna

Caramelteddy's picture

Hey Rusty, I must confess

Hey Rusty,

I must confess that I was practically adopted by the family of a former x. She was kind of a bitch and they just liked me lots. Things got really weird once I got new steady. I learned in the future that I should break up with the whole family to avoid discomfort for all parties involved.

minniesota's picture

Tamale to you! hehe :-D

Tamale to you! hehe Laughing out loud

Still searching for the right brainy quote.

Julia Watson's picture

You and your euphemistic

You and your euphemistic foodie-dom.

minniesota's picture

CAMW, you need to find a GF

CAMW, you need to find a GF who can treat you right. Not only should you stay away from those exes, you probably need an exorcism.

Still searching for the right brainy quote.

Not2Taem's picture

Don't ever piss her

Don't ever piss her off!

Suddenly glad I am not your type.

minniesota's picture

Very cute!

Very cute!

Still searching for the right brainy quote.

minniesota's picture

Oh, yes, I've hung out with a

Oh, yes, I've hung out with a couple of my exes simply because we ran in the same social circles. Not much of a problem.

I remember one ex came to a party with her current GF and their dogs. They seemed happy so I was happy for them. I also was happy that I still wasn't her GF because I discovered we that we obviously did not have the same taste in dog breeds. Some things just work out right.

Still searching for the right brainy quote.

~GK's picture

I'm not really big on staying

I'm not really big on staying friends with my Xs. Too much drama for me around it. But Cage and the Professor make a solid case against the patriarchy... so I am softening. On the otherhand, my wife is very close to her Xs and I had to come to grips with it. I told her I trust her but it's her Xs I was worried about. Now I realize it doesn't matter at all. And these Xs are her family... and now a part of mine too. There's one I don't like so much because she was abusive. But that's not my relationship to own. Anyway, great topic. Thanks.

minniesota's picture

Yes and we have fish tacos in

Yes and we have fish tacos in our commune!

Still searching for the right brainy quote.

Rusty's picture

Thank you for bringing up

Thank you for bringing up mothers. Can someone explain to me why families think it's OK to continue to include exes in family functions? Ex most recent and I broke up either 2 or 3 years ago (depends who you ask) but my family still hasn't gotten the memo. They still ask if I'll invite her to birthday parties and weddings. I don't usually do it.

I did succumb and invited her to my parent's 50th anniversary party a couple of years ago and my dad really pissed me off when he told her "no matter what you're still part of the family." Yay for family acceptance but if I was straight there's no way my dad would have said that to an ex-husband or ex-boyfriend.

"When you look for the bad in mankind expecting to find it, you surely will." ~ Pollyanna

Julia Watson's picture

Sweetie, this IS the commune.

Sweetie, this IS the commune.

Not2Taem's picture

The commune was a joke? :cry:

The commune was a joke? Crying

Not2Taem's picture

CAMW, Forget those exes! I

CAMW,

Forget those exes! I think we should all go into the woods for a weekend, get roaring drunk, and create a screening test for your "futures".

LongBeachDogLover's picture

Did someone say ex ??

Did someone say ex ??

Not2Taem's picture

So True! :D

So True! Laughing out loud

Grace Moon's picture

exactly

exactly

tweet tweet @gracemoon

lucia_2008's picture

I agree with Cage.

I agree with Cage.

Smile...life is good!!!

Julia Watson's picture

Dennis the Menace!

Dennis the Menace!

conlite's picture

Strange hearing problem

Strange hearing problem today: Thought the last word said was "Cage-iarchy" till I replayed it. Great video you all. My ex lives in the UK, so not much contact really.

Professor C's picture

Oh, sweet, Medicine Woman.

Oh, sweet, Medicine Woman. Heartbreak is heartbreak, but when it's coupled with that sinking feeling of getting "ripped off" one way or another, we have an absolute deal-breaker. had a few of those myself...
Glad you stay away from these! yuck!

Professor C's picture

A flattering portrait of me

A flattering portrait of me in the freeze frame, Grace! haha xox

CA_Medicine_Woman's picture

I don't hang out with my

I don't hang out with my ex's. The last one I suspect has a Jerry Springer camera crew following her around (yeah, she's that bizarre). The one before was so jealous I couldn't even pet her cat without there being an argument. The one before turned out to be married (happily, to a man), and she took me for over $100k during our 4 years together. The one before that turned out to be a lot lizard (a truck stop prostitute). The one before that abused me, and later became a stalker. The one before that decided to become a man, and then thought the way men were supposed to treat women was to smack them around once in a while, at one point dislocating me shoulder (that's when I bailed). The one before that cheated on me, and gave me, um, a present that required a doctor's visit to get rid of (that's how I caught her).

Why on earth would I want to hang out with this sort?

I suppose if the relationships had simply fizzled out, or if our lives simply took different paths at some point, it would be very possible to hang out with or be friends with them. I could also see simply hanging out with them if some time had passed and they clearly changed their ways, and/or made up in some way for whatever harm they may have caused me.

But, this has never been the case, with any of my exes (since moving to California). I can be polite and respectful to them (to varying degrees), but there is no way I would hang out or be friends with them.